Anxiety Related to Sexual Performance

You had a lovely day with a great and the most adorable woman with whom you had always wanted to be, and are now eagerly waiting for that great climax happening. But alas! Your mind is just worrying you to death because you cant come to terms with the fact that whether you will be able to do your much awaited sexual act between the sheets, successfully or not.

Relax! There is nothing to worry about your sexual performance. Whether a person is a beginner or a seasoned professional, he is bound to be under the grip of anxiety before he indulges in the sexual act that he had been waiting for. Sexual performance anxiety is very common. The more the importance of your relationship is, the greater your anxiety performance. Ultimately what happens is, your worst fears come true and you do not perform as to your expectations. The result of your anxiety is that you end up with a low confidence and self esteem, you start avoiding sexual overtures, which can further deteriorate your relationship and finally you may develop sexual dysfunction.

What is that which actually gets on your ‘nerves’? It can be anything, ranging from the stress of your everyday life, or due to the scolding that you got from your boss, some financial problem or any other problem. These are the issues which are preoccupying your mind and are deterring you from performing satisfactorily. You can surely get rid of anxiety and worry. Try to forget about your stress and think about the pleasure that you can get if you perform as expected. If you do so you can surely get rid of your performance anxiety. In fact performance anxiety and your actual sexual performance go hand in hand. If you worry and are anxious about your sexual performance too much you will truly end up with your worst fears turning true, which in turn will again lead to your anxiety. When a sexual problem occurs more than once, part of you can begin to expect it to happen, causing a conditioning effect to occur. Then, even thinking about sex can cause anxiety, which inhibits your natural sex response.

If you want to come out of the vicious circle of this performance induced anxiety then the best remedy is that you should go for counseling because talking about your problems to some professional can surely ease that stress induced anxiety in your brain and can help you. Hypnosis therapy also works well for many people because during the hypnotic therapy the hidden fears lying in the sub-conscious mind are removed by proper therapy.

Separation Anxiety Disorder in Children

Anxiety is a condition which is not only seen in the adults but also in the children. If you observe the behavior of the kids you will realize that they too at some stage suffer anxiety disorder. If the children are not taught to cope up with this anxiety then in late childhood they may develop performance anxiety and in adolescence may have social phobia.

Anxiety can often be noticed in kids right from the time they are 4 months old to 24 months old. Infants can easily be noticed to get terrified when they happen to hear some loud noise all of a sudden. It is also quite normal for the child to cry if separated from his care-giver. The crying of a child when his parent is not near him is a way to show his anxiety. A child cries when his parents are away or at least one of the parent to whom he is more attached is not near him. The crying of the child exhibits his fear of going away from his parents or the fear that his parents may not return and would be lost for ever. It is this anxious feeling that makes the child cry.

The parents should never bribe a child to get rid of the child’s crying. Instead the parents should teach the child to learn to adjust to the new surroundings. The child should be made to understand gently. In no way should a child be scolded to quit his behavior forcibly. Toddlers who start going to preschool may also display at times such anxiety when they move out of the cozy and protective environment of their homes and reach amidst such people whom they are not familiar with. At this time the teachers should take care of the child. Make the child believe that he is quite safe just like the other children. If the child becomes extremely anxious and starts panicking then the parent should be allowed to see off the child till his class room but should not sneak back again into the class.

Some children seem to be more irritable or clingy while they are in their infancy. Such children find it exceedingly difficult to adjust to their transitions or their daily schedule.

Such children are more likely to develop anxiety when they grow up. Hence children with such kind of temperament are more easily to develop anxiety when they grow up further. There are several factors which are responsible for the anxiety in children. The factors can be tiredness, major or minor illness, any change or transition in the house hold, birth of a sibling, family changes like somebody’s death or illness etc.

There are certain treatments available for such children who are suffering from anxiety disorder. Behavioral therapy is often beneficial for both the child and his parents. Counseling proves to be of immense help for the child and his parents. In few cases where the counseling or the behavioral therapy fails, medication can be combined with it but for children, medications should be given only when the alternative methods fail. But medication is needed for a minority of children who have persistent symptoms, resistant to behavior modification and psychotherapy.

How Old is the Disease of Anxiety Disorder

Anxiety Disorder does not need much of an introduction to the people these days. Thanks to the ever mounting pressure in our daily life, be it lifestyle pressure or professional pressure, anxiety disorder is no alien disease to us. But interestingly anxiety disorder was first recognized only in 1980, by the American Psychiatric Association. Before this, even if people went to a physician received the general diagnosis of just simply ‘stress’ or ‘nerves’. This was one of the main reasons that people hardly cared for this condition thinking that it would soon pass. More over the physicians also had the least knowledge of the disease and that was also one of the reasons that the people never received any effective treatment. It was only after 1980 that people began to recognize the possible threat to a person’s personality and severe disabilities that could be associated with anxiety disorder, like agoraphobia, drug abuse, etc.

Often people used to think that anxiety or stress is basically a ‘woman’s problem’ but in reality it does not spare even the men. In fact the current researches show that anxiety disorder can inflict even the children and the elderly. The awareness that the people have today about anxiety disorder is basically because of the exposure of the researches in front of the media.

History of the Treatment of Anxiety Disorder

Media has been instrumental in spreading the awareness about anxiety disorder and hence more and more people are showing interest now to visit the physician and get them selves examined for their condition. Men, who otherwise considered the disease troubling only for women, now realize that this is not true and hence like to take a doctor’s advice to treat their condition even if it is just the onset of the disease.

In olden days when the disease of anxiety disorder was not much recognized, people used to employ some strange, humorous and sometimes even painful methods to treat themselves of their condition of anxiety. Sometimes the methods of treatment involved were really very dangerous. Many people used herbal medicines or balms to treat their anxiety disorder. Some people tried to give extreme hot and cold temperatures to the body. Some people used to bathe in extreme cold water of the rivers and the streams, used health spas etc. but there were even some crazy people who inflicted deliberate pain to their bodies, like blood-letting using the leeches to suck the blood. With the emergence of psycho-analysis and Freud’s psycho theories, people gradually began to understand the psychological basis of the disease and started visiting a therapist in order to consult about their disease. With the entry of pharmaceuticals in curing the condition people slowly started relying on medicines, although it was not yet known by the name of ‘Anxiety Disorder’.